There’s something really very… interesting about wearing a purple bra. If you don’t own one, go out and get one,
even a cheap one, and put it on. You’ll
see what I mean.
I hate bras. I hate
putting them on. I hate wearing
them. I hate hand-washing them so they
don’t fall apart after two wears. I hate
buying them. I hate them. Always have.
Just like my license to drive, I never wanted a bra. I never understood why or how they came to be
deemed necessary. They are awful,
horrible things.
Then again, my mammarian endowment is quite modest. I dare say that if my development had ended a
little farther along the alphabet, that I may very well have a different
outlook on the matter. As it is, my B
(for boobs, no doubt) cups are in no danger of runnething over. To achieve any semblance of cleavage, help is
required and I’m always astounded at how a couple of tiny swatches of fabric
and a bit of elastic can turn a broad valley into a canyon as easily as they
do.
Still, I cannot bring myself to dress without first donning
one of the infernal things, except on the weekends when I know that I don’t
have to and in the evenings when they are being pulled off as soon as I’m in
the door after work. I’ve grown quite
adept at removing them without taking off my shirt, though it takes a good deal
of discipline no to deposit them in the trash bin when I do.
I have yet to find one that is comfortable, that doesn’t
have straps that slip off my shoulders and doesn’t say: Hand wash on the
label. Every time I fill the sink to
accomplish this feat, I envision myself beating the damn thing against a
rock. Then there’s the hang-to-dry
problem. I was banned from using the
shower rod years ago. Now that I can
hang them on the shower rod if I want to, I can’t bring myself to put my
intimate apparel on display should company drop by and I forget to remove
them. It’s silly, I know. It’s not like people don’t naturally assume
that I wear a bra. But do they need to
know firsthand what they look like? I think
probably not.
For the past 38(ish) years, a bra has been an integral part
of my daily routine. Typically they are
white or beige, plain rather than lacy. I
tend to avoid under-wires and look for simple features such as having the
straps adjustable in the front where it’s easier to do. I have owned strapless and convertible bras
that I have purchased for specific outfits.
I’ve even owned a few black bras over the years. Generally, however, they are cheap, functional
and uninteresting garments. If they were
kittens, I’d definitely be charged with cruelty and abuse for the way I handle
them.
It might be an age thing.
It might be a single thing. It might
be I’m simply losing it. But a week ago I
walked into a store and purchased three new bras. Just for fun.
One is black and lacy. One is red
and lacy. And one is purple with a pretty
little bow. They all have
under-wires. They all turn my broad
valley into a curvy canyon.
I’ve heard women say that wearing pretty underwear makes
them feel good. I thought this was
rather bonkers, a bunch of feminine drivel.
But it’s absolutely true! No less
uncomfortable, but uncontestably true! I’m
wearing a pretty purple bra and I feel fabulous!
So fabulous, in fact, that I also spritzed myself with
perfume, drew eye-liner across my lids and lengthened my lashes with
mascara. If I’m not careful, next I’ll
be lacquering my toenails and getting a French manicure!
What is happening to me?
Sheesh!
Until about 15 years ago, I wouldn’t have been caught dead
without make-up on. Once I even made my
kids late for school because I forgot to put on mascara and had to turn around
half way there to go back and put some on.
On another occasion when I found myself out in public without make-up, I
sat in a dim restaurant with my sun glasses on so no one would know.
Rumours started circulating that I had a
black eye and the speculative source was my husband (small-town postulation at
its finest!). While I never did cotton
on to the pretty underwear thing, the make-up thing was a huge priority. I figured I needed all the help I could get.
Then disaster struck.
In 1997 I became the fortunate winner of the Shingles lotto. As an added bonus the break out was on my
face rather than my ribs and, in the process of self-medicating for a simple
rash combined with the discovery that my 60-year-old feather pillow was
somewhat mildewy, I ended up with a bacterial infection on top of the painful
Shingles. A round of tetracycline later,
I was back to normal. At least I thought
I was. I ended up with a lingering
aftermath called Rosacea and to this day I cannot use soap on my face lest I wish
to look like a scaly, blotchy freak of nature.
It took another two years to concede to the fact that make-up, even my
adored and precious mascara, was an irritant not worth the anguish it
caused.
Free from the demands of make-up, both on my time and finances,
I adopted the attitude of not caring. Au
naturel, baby! That’s me. Who needs the distress? No one appeared to be cringing in horror when
I walked into a room with a naked face.
I could adapt.
A few months ago something happened. I’m not sure what it was that made me notice,
but I became acutely aware of other women.
I noticed their hair, their make-up, their clothes, their perfume, their
jewelry, their shoes… I didn’t exactly
sit there and compare myself to them, but I noticed. I wondered how long it took them to put
themselves together the way they did.
And why? I tried to imagine them
without the polished nails, the immaculately coifed hair, the layers of cosmetics,
the painful looking footwear... I
wondered why I wondered. Did these things matter? Did they make any kind of real
difference?
Bah. Just a lot of
nonsense.
So what compelled me to buy those bras? What compelled me to put on make-up and
splash on perfume? And why does wearing
a purple bra feel so good?
These are just some of the mysteries of being a woman in the
21st century. A single
woman. A woman whose ovaries are in
their death throes, but continue to display a damnable desire to live. An intelligent, resourceful and creative
woman. An independent woman. A woman who has survived two very weird
marriages, raised three pretty amazing kids in spite of the men she lived with and
has two adorable grandchildren. A woman
who manages - rather well - a small public library. A woman who owns her own home. A woman who thought she knew her own mind…
Seriously! Who knew a
pretty purple bra could make such a difference?
And why didn’t I discover this years ago?
It is amazing what little things will make us feel better about our selves! Good for you!
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